Someone asked me this question, and to be honest, I had no idea what the answer to this question was, and I figured that research wouldn’t exactly help, because facts and statistics don’t exactly help you explore and learn about yourself. So, I decided that an interview would be my best bet for getting an answer for all of you. I interviewed Instagram user @dadaslildevil to get some answers, and I think it went pretty well. I’m putting the entire interview on here, and it has a lot of information.
Me: What are some key points of figuring out if you’re a little? Like, what thoughts/desires/behaviors define being a little?
Her: I don’t really believe there’s any key pointers but for me personally, I’ve always been childish at heart. I’ve always enjoyed coloring, pastel colors, cartoons, etc. but I never identified as a little until I found out what it was. But overall I figure littles are childish at heart.
Me: Are littles always subs?
Her: Not all kinds of littles are subs. Age regressors tend to (most of the time) stay away from power exchange and all. However, ddlg littles do tend to either be submissive or switches.
Me: The person who asked me about this topic said that they they feel they “don’t behave as strongly as some of the accounts [they] follow.” What would you say to that? Does someone need to behave “strongly” like a child to be a little?
Her: No, they do not. Littles can have both little spaces and middle spaces. Little space tends to range from maybe 0-7 years old and middle space I’d say is about 8+ but overall regardless of what age that person regresses to, they are still a little.
Me: Okay. And, from my understanding, the little does not need to act like a little all the time, correct?
Her: Correct. Very few people I know are 24/7 littles. I am not even little all of the time. I put my big life, such as school, first.
Me: Can you tell me a bit about how you came to realize that you’re a little?
Her: Well, last November I entered a relationship with someone who I didn’t know was a daddy dom and he was very open about it, and instead of telling me he’s a daddy dom, he simply babied me and asked me to call him daddy if I was comfortable with it. At first I was kind of timid about it, but within a week of him babying me every day, I regressed for the first time and ever since I’ve tried to regress whenever I can because it helps me cope with a lot of stress.
Me: Do you think you would’ve realized that you’re a little if not for that relationship?
Her: I feel like eventually, if I never had been in that relationship, I would’ve found out about ddlg simply because I’m curious and I’ve come to find out after telling a friend at school that I’m a little, that I have a few friends that are in the community as well. However being in that relationship helped me discover it a lot sooner.
Me: What is it like to regress?
Her: When I regress, i feel young, vulnerable and careless. A lot of times when I regress I completely forget about the stressful stuff that’s going on in my big life (and there tends to be a lot) and it just overall helps me feel at peace.
Me: Nice, it sounds like almost a meditative state. Did you ever struggle with any social stigma of being a little?
Her: I personally haven’t because I am not very open about it to those around me. The only ones that know are my friends at school within the community and a few close friends outside of the community.
Me: Okay. But on that topic, did knowledge of social stigmas maybe make it difficult to embrace being a little in the first place?
Her: Yes, definitely. It still slightly does. I always get those moments where I wanna be very out to everyone with it but then I get very nervous that a lot of people in my life won’t approve and I’ll lose them because of it so I try to hide it a lot.
Me: Well, I suppose it’s a good thing that it’s something that can be hidden from most people then. One last question: what advice would you give to someone trying to figure out if they’re a little?
Her: For someone trying to figure out if they’re a little, try not to dwell so much in the common stereotypes of being a little because there’s no right or wrong way of being a little. Their little space is theirs and your little space is yours and my little space is mine. There’s no expectations that have to be met to be yourself.
(The next day, I thought of two more questions, so I decided to go ahead and ask her)
Me: How does a person determine their little age?
Her: I believe it depends on what activities they like to do while in little space, or what shows they like to watch. However, I know plenty of people who also don’t have an established little age.
Me: And do you generally act as a little in the bedroom, out of the bedroom, or both? And if both, is it usually one moreso than the other?
Her: I personally do not [act as a little in the bedroom], but I do know some who do. My little space is moreso out of the bedroom.
Me: So it’s whichever suits the particular person?
Me: Okay. That’s all the questions I have. Thanks again for your time!
Overall, it seems that the big takeaway from this is that there is no one way to be a little. There are options of what your little age is, when you’re in little space, whether you associate being a little with sex, etc. Similarly to labels of sexuality, being a little is something that you really define yourself and determine if you feel it suits you. Just explore being a little, having your partner baby you and calling them daddy/mommy, and do your best to ignore stigmas, and you’ll likely figure it out.